Monday, August 20, 2007

That's, uh, not mine.

I'm starting this blog as a forum for LDS women (or men, or children) who need a place to philosophize online. Not rant and rave, but a place to ponder the meaning of it all. A place where we can get together and discuss not only doctrine of the LDS Church, but HOW TO APPLY that doctrine in our super busy and over programmed lives as mothers, siblings, wives, neighbors, friends, employees, or just people. So if you like to think and get new perspectives on life, this is the place for you!

I'm stealing the name from a funny UVSC 24-hour film festival short, entitled, obviously, "Philantra," meaning a philosophy mantra. I decided that so much of my life was doing doing doing that my personal and family goals became ridiculously elementary, such as pray for more than 20 seconds, actually open scriptures and read more than three words. I'd lost that precious meditation time I so valued when I was single. And I don't think I'm alone. I think there are lots of us who need the checks and balances of trusting friendships to constantly realign where our lives are and who we want to be. We need listening and understanding hearts to try to explain the complicated and varying emotions we experience, especially because the simple act of putting emotions into words makes them more manageable.

Here you are safe. Here we can talk about anything, especially anythings that have to do with balancing our lives to truly become perfect. Perfect in the sense of the original meaning, which is whole. We can't do that alone. We all know we need the Savior and His atonement, but do we really live that way? Do we really exercise daily faith in that? I don't, but I want to. So that's why I'm here. I want some help in learning how to do that.

3 comments:

Ben and Kimberly McEvoy said...

Lizza,

I think its great. I am not sure the logistics or rules of blogging so just let me know what i do wrong.
My son is currently entertainning himself in my new 50 lb bag of flour.
The big problem with this is Ihave already reached my max, yeah it is only 10:20.

So now that im ultra frustrated and its 85 degrees in my house how do i do what the savior wants me to do.

I feel as a mother i am too often reacting and disciplining as the natural man . .. actually as the natural beast.

I love my kids. they are great kids, so why am i so stressed. so stressed and take itout on the kids.

We can be reading the scriptures and I stillget frustrated. If only pedicures and massages cames manditory with motherhood. How simple my solution ..just calm down act with love.
So simple, but why can i not master it??

Lizza said...

Kim,

Oh, how many times have I been there. In fact, I live at Stressville, UT, otherwise known as Orem. Just today Zina drove me mad. I woke up with a headache and a sore throat and all I wanted was a nap. I knew she was exhausted, she has a little head cold and needs sleep. But she gave me 45 minutes. The days I have a million things to do, she wants to nap for four hours. The days when I need serious rest to function, she wants 20 minutes. I keep telling myself she doesn't do it on purpose, but deep inside I feel otherwise.

I TOTALLY react as the natural beast. Or monster. And then feel really guilty when I see other mom's react with patience and love. Today I wondered why I even had a kid. The grass is always greener. Is it the ultimate achievement to really live in the moment?!

I'm really proud you reached your max at 10:20. Today mine was toasted at 4:30, when she spent a 1/2 hour intermittently crying and when I finally got her I couldn't fall back asleep.

So, answers? None for me, but I'm SO glad I'm not alone in this.

Anonymous said...

I'm sorry I didn't stumble across your new blog until... well, until it was no longer new. I love the concept, though, and I'm hoping you'll continue with it.